–> A new country forces every one of us to reassemble herself - the old you doesn't fit here yet, and the new one hasn't come into focus.

–> Career to rebuild, a world that won't sit still, a body that changed: the layers pile up, and it's foggy which to face first, or who you're becoming at all.

–> On Thursday, October 8, we're holding a small sharing circle to say it out loud together.

Details below.

Someone asked the group whether anyone else had gone through an identity crisis after moving, specifically those who did not choose it for themselves. Who followed a husband. Who followed family. Who had no real say in it. And how do you build a new personality here.

The replies made it clear very quickly that the question was much bigger than the woman asking it.

Your title does not travel. Your network is back down to a handful of people, most of whom you met this year. Your experience gets read by someone who has never heard of the companies on your resume and has no way to know what they meant.

And the part that rarely gets said out loud: this happens even when the move was entirely your own idea. Choosing it does not exempt you from rebuilding. It only means you have fewer people to be angry at.

Politics feels less predictable every month. The job market stopped playing by the rules we learned, and the advice that worked three years ago now sounds quaint.

Our bodies are changing too. Some of us realize we want children and feel the clock. Others simply notice that their energy and their body are not what they were five years ago.

None of this arrives one item at a time. It stacks up in your head as layers of thoughts and worries, and it is genuinely hard to tell which layer you are supposed to deal with first. Most of us end up dealing with none of them and calling it a busy season.

When this much is moving around you, your values are usually the steadiest thing you own. They are a reasonable place to stand while you rebuild.

On Thursday we are sitting down together to put these layers on the table and say them out loud, which is the part that is almost impossible to do alone. After that we will look at how to work with them in a structured way: the approach behind The Red Thread, a set of exercises for naming your values and building your next chapter around them.

Small room, honest conversation, no performance required.

Mon, Oct 5 · 6:30 PM ET · Builders Circle: 10-week sprint with Gaukhar Dossova. Eleven women picked one project each and committed to where they want it to be by December. This round is full, and the next cohort starts in January. Members only. → https://luma.com/jyvr3cm0

Tue, Oct 6 · 1:00-3:00 PM ET · Open Desk: Work Together Hours with Maria Gordienko. Some tasks only get started when somebody else is in the room, so Maria opens a Google Meet and works on her own projects while you work on yours. Members only. → https://luma.com/l0pcongx

Tue, Oct 6 · 6:00 PM ET · English Speaking Club with Iuliia Dubrovskaia. A speaking club, not an English class. No grammar drills, and mistakes are part of how it works. This week the group is talking about emergency situations in the U.S.: what happened to each of us, what was hard about it, and what we learned about how to respond. → https://luma.com/ikaymf7n

Thu, Oct 8 · 6:00 PM ET · (re)Build yourself again with Maria Gordienko. A sharing circle for everyone who is quietly putting herself back together after a move. We name the layers out loud together, and then look at a structured way to work with them, built on the values that stay steady while everything else keeps changing. → https://luma.com/g6au7okb

Say one of these layers out loud this week, even if only to one of us.

Azhar & Maria
Founders, She's NTAP (New to America Pro)

P.S.
Hit reply with the layer that is loudest for you right now. We read everything, and the ones that keep repeating are going into Thursday's conversation.